A Love Letter to You Besties

Self-Love, Self-Care, A Need!

Alright, besties, let’s have a real talk. Grab your tea, coffee, or whatever fuels your soul because we’re about to get into something that’s been on my heart for a while. And by ‘a while,’ I mean… like forever. And no, I’m not here to sell you a $50 face mask or tell you to “just meditate.” This is about the messy, beautiful, sometimes uncomfortable journey of putting yourself first. Because, spoiler alert: self-love ain’t selfish. It’s about survival!

Now, before you hit me with the “I don’t have time for this” excuse, let me stop you right there. When was the last time you did something just for you? Not because it was productive or because it made someone else happy, but because it made you feel alive? Oh well yeah..., I thought so.

Here’s the thing: this topic isn’t just some random thought I had while scrolling X (formerly Twitter) at 2 a.m. (though, let’s be real, that’s where a lot of my deep thoughts happen and sometimes sleep eludes me). This comes from personal, with a capital P or E, hmmm whichever, experience.

So, grab your coffee (or tea, or whatever that you fancy, no judgment here 😉), and let’s dive into this together. Consider this your sassy best-friend pep talk, complete with tough love, a little humor, and a whole lot of heart. I'm all about love remember 😜😘

Before we go further, say this with me, Self-Love Ain’t Selfish. Say it again. Yes again. And louder this time, scream if you must so that it reverberates deep into every corner of your being. Loud enough for the guilt that’s been living rent-free in your head finally packs its bags and leaves.

The Guilt Trip We Didn’t Sign Up For

Let’s talk about that guilt. The sneaky ugly little gremlin that whispers, “You should be doing more,” when you finally take a moment for yourself. The one that side-eyes you when you say no to an invite because you just need to be alone. The one that guilt-trips you into feeling bad for wanting more.

Yeah, that one? We’re kicking it to the curb today. Yes today!

I swear, society has done a real number on us. We’re raised to believe that if we’re not running ourselves ragged, sacrificing every last ounce of our energy for others, or saying ‘yes’ when we really mean ‘hell no,’ then we must be doing something wrong. Always putting others first, always being "on".  And while being kind and considerate is great, it becomes a problem when we’re sacrificing our own well-being in the process. But here’s the truth, babe—you can’t pour from an empty cup. You need to fill it up all the way. That way or the highway. No other way ok.

Trust me. I’ve been there—burned out, guilty, and constantly being sorry for wanting more. And you know what? I’m done with that. I’ve been preaching self-care and self-love to anyone who will listen because, honestly, we all need to hear it. You don’t need to feel guilty for wanting to take care of yourself. You don’t need to be apologetic for being enough. You just need to be you, just as you are.

Because listen, self-love isn’t just about bubble baths and face masks (though, let’s be real, those are still A+ choices. And I do love some me time at spas. Who don't? 😘). It’s all about freedom—freedom from the judgment we put on ourselves for needing rest, for prioritizing our peace, for saying no without feeling like we have to write an apology letter afterward.

It’s about love—not just the kind we give to others, but the kind we desperately need to give to ourselves. It’s not always pretty or Instagram-worthy. Sometimes, it’s messy and hard. But it’s necessary. And it’s for everyone—yes, even you boo! Even you.

Still Learning, Still Growing

And let’s be clear, I’m not just up here on my self-love soapbox preaching like I’ve got it all figured out. Nah. I’m still learning, still growing, still catching myself slipping into old habits where I put everyone else first and forget that I, too, deserve the same energy I give out. And you know what? That’s okay. Self-care isn’t a destination; it’s a journey. Some days, I’m killing it. Other days, I’m a hot mess. But every day, I’m trying. Every effort counts, right?

What helps me the most is my relationship with God. It grounds me. It reminds me that I’m loved, worthy, and enough, just as I am. It gives me the strength to set boundaries and the grace to forgive myself when I fall short. 

So, let me ask you this: what’s one thing you’ve been putting off because you feel like you don’t “deserve” it? Is it taking a mental health day? Booking that vacation? Saying no to a commitment that’s draining you? Whatever it is, I’m giving you permission to do it. No guilt, no apologies.

But whether your self-care comes through prayer, meditation, journaling, or just finally allowing yourself to breathe, I want you to know that it’s valid. You are valid. You really are babe!

But What Will People Think?

Ah, yes. The eternal question. Here’s the thing: people are going to think whatever they want, regardless of what you do. So why not do what’s best for you?

I get it, though. It’s scary to prioritize yourself. It’s scary to set boundaries, to say no, to put your needs first. But here’s the kicker: the people who truly love you will understand. And the ones who don’t? Well, that says more about them than it does about you.

Let’s flip the script, shall we? Instead of worrying about what people will think, ask yourself this: what kind of life do you want to live? Do you want to spend your days exhausted, resentful, and stretched too thin? Or do you want to feel alive, present, and at peace? Me? I choose peace and love, every single time.

Self-Care Isn’t One-Size-Fits-All

Here’s the thing about self-care: it’s deeply personal. What works for me might not work for you, and that’s okay. Maybe your version of self-care is going for a run or doodling or spending time with friends. Maybe it’s sitting in silence with a cup of coffee or binge-watching your favorite show on Netflix with your favorite snacks. Maybe it’s finally booking that therapy appointment or cutting ties with toxic people.

The point is, there’s no right or wrong way to do it. The only rule is that it has to feel good to you. So, let me ask you this: what does self-care look like in your life right now? And if you’re not sure, that’s okay too. Maybe it’s time to explore and figure it out.

Compassion, Confidence & Fearlessness

This is exactly why I create my motivational posters—to be those little reminders on your wall, your desk, your mirror, that you are enough. That you deserve to be kind to yourself. That taking up space isn’t a crime. That resting is not the same as quitting.

Because let’s be real, sometimes we need that extra push. A little in-your-face kind of love. And if hanging up a piece of art that says “Be fearless, but also, take a nap” is what keeps you grounded, then I’m here for it. 

The Self-Care Glow-Up

You know what’s even better? I’m working on something that I know will help you prioritize you—a self-care journal filled with prompts to guide you through the messy, beautiful, necessary journey of loving yourself unapologetically. Think of it as your new bestie on paper, giving you all the pep talks you didn’t even know you needed. Wait for my announcement. I plan to make it available for you by end of this quarter 😊

My bottom Line

You matter. Your needs matter. Your happiness matters. And taking care of yourself isn’t just a luxury—it’s a necessity. So, the next time you feel guilty for putting yourself first, remember this: you can’t be everything to everyone if you’re nothing to yourself. The cup must be brimming remember 🤗

So, let’s make a deal. Next time you feel guilty for taking care of yourself, for setting a boundary, for choosing rest—remember this conversation. Remember that you are worthy of care, too.

Go do something that makes your soul happy. And if anyone tries to give you crap about it, send them my way. I’ve got your back. I’ve got a whole sermon ready hahaha😉🤣🤣

Now, go take care of you. No guilt, no second-guessing. Like always, let's spread some love and don't forget to check out my collections 😘❤️💓💖✨